Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Life and Death


My grandmother, mother, Maetia and her cousin Janna visiting


On Tuesday night, March 17, I lost a grandmother, my mum's mother. On Wednesday, March 18, I celebrated my grandfather's 90th birthday, my dad's father. It was a strange week to say the least. My grandmother had been suffering from dementia (noticeably) for the past few years but lived in her own home and mostly on her own until she was 91 years old. She then spent 7 years in a nursing home where she quickly lost a sense of who she was and who we were. For the first few years, she visited with people, went on the bus tours and took part in the activities. She was very caring and always acted as if she was one of the nurses taking care of all the 'patients'. Later on she started to forget us and would tell us stories of her babies, her dog, and her life. It was all mixed up in time but still a way to connect with her. Both sets of my grandparents lived through war, the great depression, immigration, great technological advances and have had to adjust to a lot of change. My Opa's health is failing but I still managed to get a smile out of him and a few jokes on his birthday. Both of them love(d) children and bringing my own children to visit with them is not only special for me, but I can tell it is the highlight of their week. I have a hard time thinking of my parents at that stage and lately Michael and I have been discussing our own immortality and what we would want or not want at that stage. It has been really hard to watch them age. Both of my parents are some of the youngest siblings in their families so I have only ever had elderly grandparents. Even so, I remember my grandmother's love for her garden, and helping her weed it. I remember staying with her for the summer when my grandpa moved into a nursing home and playing Chinese checkers, crazy eights, then the news every night before heading up to bed. I will always remember her extra slippers at the door warming by the fire, the little table we sat at while helping her do the crossword puzzles, her smile, her eyes twinkling when she laughed and the way she held up her hands in a greeting. Knowing that I will see her and others who have gone before me, in heaven does give me comfort but doesn't take away the pain of knowing there is no way to ever physically see, touch, or hear them again. A death like this makes me realize how important the relationships are that I have and how much we have to keep our kids in touch with their grandparents.

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Birthdays and bird fights

Eli turned one year old on March 3. We missed posting it because we have been busy, busy with sick kids, and fighting chickens. We had a really great day and managed to avoid too much chicken/egg loss and still have cake. Although he wasn't that interested in the cake due to prementioned flu symptoms, he did get a truck and some books, and also enjoyed his wrapping paper. He is starting to walk and mimick our words, so sometimes he says things that sound ALOT like "Thankyou" and "OPA".
It just so happens that March 3 is also be my birthday. Last year on my birthday, I gave birth. Sounds nice? It was, really really nice. I have amazing memories of his birth, the moments after, and the rest of that day while we were still in dreamy/adrenaline rush mode. This year was different but still really great. I didnt' just have a birthday, I turned 30. When I turned 25, I was upset because I felt like travelling in Australia was fun but I still didn't have a career or complete life plan. I felt like it snuck up on me. This year I welcomed the 30's into my life. I am excited to move forward and grow with my husband and children. I still don't have a career or life plan but I have realized that this life that I have is going to change all the time and plans are everchanging for a reason. Thank you Eli for coming and changing our lives for the better, you are the most amazing little boy!!


Kissing Michael through the window into the playroom

Climbed in the tub with his clothes on

Not to be outdone, we love Maetia just as much, here she is dressing up

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Pestering starts very young

Here is Eli on his birthday getting into the 'other' door to the bathroom which is blocked by the change table. He loves to get Maetia going.
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Monday, March 9, 2009

Eli's Birthday

We are going to try and post some videos of Eli on his first birthday.
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